Marriage according to BYU
A few days before Christmas, we received our homework from Stay Hitched, the one day premarital education session we are attending. Facing a mountain of work this week, Bryan took to the bedroom Monday night to start the survey. Almost immediately, he yells “Did you know this is from BYU?!”
Um, no. I didn’t. Bryan went through the questions, and I could hear the occasional, Are you kidding me? from the bedroom. At one point, I poked my head in to see how things were going and he said, “I’m being asked how many sexual partner’s I’ve had. I don’t find value in sharing that information. I think we are beyond that.”
I took it the next morning, finding myself answering in the extremes. My partner is ALWAYS this and NEVER that. (Which, isn’t true. It’s closer to OFTEN and RARELY. But I was pretty smitten with Bryan that morning, so he got high marks.) We both found it interesting that the there were hardly any questions about money. One of the few money related questions was: “Do you want to provide your family the finer things in life?” Well, vacations, nice computers, experiences and education, yes. Big televisions, fancy cars, big house- not really. The questions were vagueish, and I often wanted to know what the survey designers definitions
Upon finishing, we linked our surveys and received the report. We were instructed to look at the report together, so we sat down after dinner and took at look at it. I felt anxious, that the report would say “DANGER AHEAD!” or reveal something that Bryan had been keeping from me.
But it was just everything we knew and have already talked about, which was good and relieving. That we already are very open with each other and aware of our program areas. We’ll be taking the workshop this Saturday and I’m curious how the whole thing will play out.